Written by Elizabeth Eilers Sullivan, Visitation Alumna

With our life’s discernment, it is good to take heed about what we have learned that we do not like. Instead of finding this frustrating that once again we find ourselves not loving our work, let’s flip it into an invitation of yet another thing to check off, “No thanks, this is not for me.”

These glimpses into what we find draining us of energy, or avoiding can inform what we need to prune away from our life in order to make room for what we are being called toward.

Often, without awareness, we continue in our tried patterns, our tired treads, because it is habitual and not because it is life giving. When we take the time to pause and ask ourselves why am I resisting this? Or why do I find upon waking I have little energy to attend to my job at hand, whatever that may be, we can gain insight into our discernment–that if left unquestioned we would never gain the wisdom our life is asking of us.

In short, what we dislike, or dare I say hate, is just as important to pay attention to, as to what we often are asked to consider–what gives us joy.

So give thanks for what you do not like! Say Amen, let go. And move on to what does give you joy! You and your community will be better for it in the long run! Take courage and press on!


Elizabeth Eilers Sullivan is a 1993 graduate of the Mendota Heights Visitation; she currently resides in Santa Fe, New Mexico, with her husband and three sons. She is a freelance writer who is passionate about motherhood and sharing Salesian Spirituality . We are happy to feature her here as a guest blogger from time to time.


Beth Pender · April 19, 2012 at 7:50 am

Thank you. I had not considered things from this perspective, and it is a freeing feeling to acknowledge that I can let go of those things I don’t enjoy so that I can “make room” for the things God has in store. Sometimes all the pressure of others’ ideas of us and what our lives should be can create a barrier. This barrier is not just between God and us, but between our perception of ourselves and the true self inside. That disequalibrium causes so much stress…and is so simply relieved by letting go of the things that we don’t like, despite what others think of us. Thanks for helping me see this from a new direction! I hope you’re okay with me passing this along!

Elizabeth · April 19, 2012 at 10:34 am

Dear Beth thank you for taking time to comment sharing your experience and wisdom. Sacred disequilibrium yes! Of course you may share this. Blessings on springtime pruning and letting go!

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