Written by Elizabeth Eilers Sullivan, Visitation Alumna

It turns out falling in love has everything to do with your vocation, your calling, your way you express yourself in the world at large.

Often I hear people say go with your gut when making a decision, which can mean tapping into your intuition, acknowledging your heart’s desires, or at the very least getting your logical self out of the way. However, as I reflect on how our heart can lead us especially on a day where the heart is particularly celebrated, I fall back upon the wisdom of three people: Fr. Pedro Arrupe S.J., St. Thomas Aquinas, and Fr. Michael Himes. It is my heart’s desire today that their words speak to your heart’s deepest longings and clearest sense of yourself. Just as we must pay attention to how our minds work and which voices to cultivate, we too must pay attention to the tunings of our hearts and where and whom we pour love toward.

Fr. Pedro Arrupe S.J. said:

“Nothing is more practical than finding God, that is, than falling in a love in a quite absolute, final way. What you are in love with, what seizes your imagination will affect everything. It will decide what will get you out of bed in the mornings, what you will do with your evenings, how you spend your weekends, what you read, who you know, what breaks your heart, and what amazes you with joy and gratitude. Fall in love, stay in love, and it will decide everything.”

A Valentine from St. Thomas Aquinas on the Virtue of Love presented and unpacked by Fr. Michael Himes, Professor of Theology at Boston College. Please click on the short video to watch how love is defined by “the effective willing of the good of the other,” and realize the excitement that this approach to love makes for your loved ones.


Elizabeth Eilers Sullivan is a 1993 graduate of the Mendota Heights Visitation; she currently resides in Santa Fe, New Mexico, with her husband and three sons. She is a freelance writer who is passionate about motherhood and sharing Salesian Spirituality . We are happy to feature her here as a guest blogger from time to time.


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